Workplace Bullies Target You for Your Competence

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Tweet Workplace Bullies Target You for Your Competence Sometimes I just want to scream when I read bad advice about how to handle workplace bullying. And sometimes I want to cheer when I read some research that supports what I know to be true. This is one of those cheer days, because now I have […]

5 Reasons Bosses Ignore Bullies

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Tweet 5 Reasons Bosses Ignore Bullies Do you often wonder why bosses seem to ignore bullying behavior at work? Ever wonder why he or she won’t stand up for you when others are quite obviously bullying you at work?  After all, it’s obvious to you that you are being bullied, shouldn’t it be obvious to […]

Confronting a Malicious Bully: The Wrong Way and Right Way to Tell the Truth

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Tweet Confronting a Malicious Bully: The Wrong Way and Right Way to Tell the Truth Is it good advice to have your “chapter and verse” (that is all your evidence, incidences, and consequences) prepared so that you can confront a bully about his or her behavior? No! Probably not. Though documentation is important when bringing […]

Workplace Bullying: We’re All Part of the Dynamic

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Tweet Workplace Bullying: We’re All Part of the Dynamic As a conflict consultant, I research the reality of workplace bullying every day. Among the academic and scientific studies, dozens of books, and hundreds of articles written every year, I see a pattern of “conventional wisdom” emerging. The familiar themes sound like this: “All bullies are […]

Workplace Bullies: Changing Behaviors & Attitudes

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Tweet Workplace Bullies: Changing Behaviors & Attitudes In my work with those identified as workplace bullies (really those people who express bullying behaviors), I am always asked this question: Are we changing behavior or will we see a change in attitudes and understanding about the behavior? And that, my friends is the $64,000 question. How […]

Bully Bosses? Two Ways Bad Managers Get Mistaken For Bullies

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Tweet Bully Bosses? Two Ways Bad Managers Get Mistaken For Bullies Is your boss out to get you? I hear from quite a few employees who feel as if their boss is “out to get them” either by direct bullying or by not defending them against bullies who target them. And truth be told, sometimes […]

Workplace Bullying: 11 Tips on Building a Better Anti-Bullying Policy

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Tweet Workplace Bullying: 11 Tips on Building a Better Anti-Bullying Policy   A few months ago I wrote a blog about lawyers’ advice for creating a workplace policy for dealing with bullying issues now. Recently, SMEweb published an article from a legal firm in England that outlined some more detailed steps that I find enormously […]

Workplace Bullying Policy: Can We Overcome Prejudices That Perpetuate Workplace Bullying?

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Tweet Workplace Bullying Policy: Can We Overcome Prejudices That Perpetuate Workplace Bullying? While I am encouraged by recent steps in Australia to pass anti-bullying legislation, I know from years of dealing with bullying and workplace conflict is that merely having a law or a policy doesn’t instantly “fix” the issue. It certainly feels safer on […]

Bullying is NOT Banter: 3 Signs That It’s Not a Joke

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Tweet Bullying is NOT Banter: 3 Signs That It’s Not a Joke Have you been the brunt of bullying behaviors at work recently (or even not so recently)? After being on the receiving end of hurtful words, did the perpetrator say “I’m only joking” or “it’s just playful banter”? Did it make you wonder if […]

Speaking Out Against Bullying Isn’t So Simple

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Tweet Speaking Out Against Bullying Isn’t So Simple Bullying happens for many reasons, not the least of which is the silence of the target and witnesses. Silence is not golden when it comes to bullying behaviors, but speaking up is not easy either. But why is that? When it comes to bullying, conventional wisdom says […]