To all my clients, colleagues, and strategic-partners:
Here are some words to ponder as we embark on another turning point in our lives:
Anger and Responsibility
Our brains rest in negativity so as to be ready to respond to anything that feels like a threat (perhaps a physiological response to being chased by lions & tigers) so it is actually quite easy to become angry. That anger response is your adrenalin pumping and is a physical process. However, after 90 seconds it becomes your responsibility to manage your anger.
Your choices: stay angry or settle down.
Does it keep you safe?
Does it justify your behavior?
Does it feed your already negative brain?
Or, it is just a habit or lack of self-management skills?
Here are some suggestions for helping you handle anger:
Keep your brain busy by exchanging one stress for another. Research shows us this strategy is more restful than going to a ‘quiet place’. Pick an activity that is mentally challenging but fun for you, and you will feel better than letting your brain fester in a negative “rest” state.
Learn some self-management skills including 3 levels of reality; self-whispering; and how to identify and manage the four most dangerous communication styles.
Watch for my new stress-management and stress-reduction programs coming in 2011 where I will teach you these tools for a better life.
Wishing you all a HAPPY and HEALTHY New Year!